THE BIGGEST PERK OF TOILET TRAINING EARLY

Surprisingly, the biggest perk is not the cost savings of nappies or having no nappies to wash but its about getting the job done quicker, and easier in a way that is supported by your child's developmental stage.

It's always easier to swim with the tide rather than against it. 

Let me explain: 

As you know, the first five years fly by. In that time, children have some many developmental tasks to tackle. Let's talk about two phases, one where your angelic little button has learnt to follow instructions. They start out passing you things when you hold your hand out and you say "ta" they progress to being able to run and get something for you, they can touch their nose and ears when you ask them to for fun. They are finding so much industry and confidence in all of these newly found capabilities and they're endlessly wanting to keep this game up. Your child is a dream.

Then, the next phase ensues - which is a phase fundamental to the "terrible two's" dramatic music - (DUMMM DUMMMM) your child now realises that they are their own person with their own thoughts, ideas, needs, wants and desires and they have now decided that all of these things are always opposite to your needs, ideas, wants and desires. Even if you're trying to help them, often they now want the opposite. 

Now, toilet training. Recently, since children have worn disposable nappies they have been trained later meaning, from 2.5 years to 5 years for nighttime wetting. Research is very clear that all children except those with developmental delays should have the physical, mental and behavioural development to be able to be toilet trained at 20 months. Of course this means that some might be ready at 15 months, some at 18 months, some at 22 months and some at 2 years or beyond. It's not a race and that's not the point.

But - pop quiz. Would you rather train your child in the first 'eager to please' phase or the 'I'm my own person I do what I want phase'? 

I'm posting this because I've had great discussions with friends about this. Sharing stories from the trenches. Many, who trained one child early than another talked about how easy it was and that taking a long weekend or three days of concentrated effort had the job done. Also, many say that their boys trained later than their girls.

The issue that makes things harder is the instructional non-compliance. Meaning your child won't easily do what you say or acts stubborn. In regards to toilet training, you have to address this issue first, before you can even complete toilet training. So, you now have a bigger task at hand.

Anyway, shared thoughts from musings over wine re: toilet training, and that fit with the psychological research on effective and straightforward techniques for toilet training.

Check out my blog post: Toilet training in less than one day. No Shit for more information on the most effective methods of toilet training.